Tales from Gorwallt Fach
SPRING 2011 – WHOLING OUR EMOTIONAL ESSENCE
Last Spring I rediscovered two self-hypnosis tapes made in the mid-1990’s by Ellen von Einem-Pugh, my wonderful Attitudinal Therapy teacher and coach. Since then I've been conducting, and journaling, a year of (contemplative) experiential learning, developing my concept of four universal "Emotional Essences".
“Emotional Essences” are our pure, spiritual/emotional core and consist of (in ascending order):
Joy - experienced as the emotional energies connected with Thankfulness and Abundance.
Love - experienced as Wholeness and Healing
Creativity – as a combination of the emotional energies Wisdom and Power, and
Peace - which we experience as Faith and Trust.
Each “Emotional Essence” has a corresponding painful or negative emotion (scarred/scared energetic impulse) that we learned to feel in the earliest stages of our development, in response to a perceived threat to our survival.
In corresponding order, these are:
Lack/Despair – when we are scarred with the belief "I am not enough". These emotional scars are embedded in our Rational 'coping brain' from where they arise as negative emotions such as greed, jealousy, inadequacy, etc.
Grief – when we are scarred by love withdrawn or absent. These emotional scars are embedded in our Late Mammalian 'coping brain' from where they arise as painful emotions such as deep, numbing sadness (women) or anger (men*).
Anger - when we are scarred with "I do not understand" and/or "I am not understood" - These emotional scars are embedded in our Early Mammalian 'coping brain' from where they arise as the sort of confused, negative emotions expressed in behaviours such as frustration and violence (predominantly in men), or in crying and throat constriction (women*)
Fear - when we are scarred with, and scared of, pain inflicted by a cause we know or imagine. The negative emotion Fear is embedded in the remnants of the oldest part of our brain, the Reptilian 'coping brain'. Because the root of Fear is buried this deep, we are most often unaware that it is the source of all our negative emotions.
We can heal these scars, and re-vitalise our positive emotions, by changing, or transmuting, negative emotional energy to a positive vibration using the ancient Hawaiian forgiveness and healing blessing, known as O’Oponopono.
“I love you,
I’m sorry,
Please forgive me,
Thank you”.
To these I have added the forgiveness blessing I learned during my Reiki 2 attunement:
“I love you,
I forgive you and
I set you free”
This allows us to ‘chant’ a powerful, repeatable, ascending Octave of forgiveness and healing:
“I love you,
I’m sorry,
Please forgive me,
Thank you,
I love you,
I forgive you and
I set you free
I love you…”
By taking some quiet time each day to contemplate on and repeat these lines faithfully, we release a flow of powerful healing vibrations into the Field of Conscious-All-One-ness – from where it may be accessed by our Self and “Others”, enabling spontaneous spiritual-emotional healing and growth for All.
By healing our emotional scars, we are free to choose – and therefore, transmute:
- Peaceful purpose from the flight or fight of Fear
- Creative energy from the blind deafness of Anger
- Loving wholeness from the loneliness of Grief, and
- Abundant Joy from the empty longing of Lack
Guiding us on our journey of Personal Development and Spiritual Evolution, our “Emotional Essences” pull us towards perfection, free of the physical, emotional and spiritual scars of this cellular life and the “skandhas”, or karmic scars, we inherited from our soul-ular ancestors.
Try this simple, powerful daily practice of forgiveness and blessing – and be the change.
You can find out more about this on my 'sister' website: - http://www.earthsheart.com.
Namaste
Dee
Gorwallt Fach
April 2010
Additional Information:
‘Corrupted’ emotions
* The gender-specific behavioural differences in which we 'express' our painful emotions are due to cultural pressure. For example:
- The repeated warning "big boys don't cry" leads boys to corrupt their expressions of grief and sadness into more culturally ‘acceptable’ masculine emotional expressions, such as angry ‘temper tantrums’. Over time, they forget how to feel their grief and longing for love, and outbursts of anger and violence take control.
- When young, girls are dissuaded from displaying their anger by being told that this isn't ladylike or loveable. They corrupt their real feelings of anger by resorting to behaviours more closely related to 'grief'. Often when a woman most needs to express her true feelings of frustration, fear or anger, she finds herself dis-empowered by a body that constricts her throat and makes her eyes ‘leak’.
The true emotion being experienced can be deciphered by 'feeling' where in our physical body the emotional energy is most strongly located; grief around the heart, anger in the solar plexus, frustration in the throat, fear in the guts, etc.
The emotional ‘Shadow’
John Heron, the psychologist and counsellor, identified the emotions of Fear, Anger and Grief as those we learn at the earliest stage in our infant development. They arise from a perceived threat to, or absence of, one of our fundamental needs for survival: security, understanding and loving care.
To these I have added 'Lack' (Depression / despair) as a negative emotion that we learn over time.
The ‘Coping Brains’
Each of the four fundamental negative emotions has a place in one of our 'Coping Brains'; developed during ascending epochs of our evolution to enable us to function in the world despite potentially disabling feelings.
It is these four painful, ‘negative’ emotions: Lack, Grief, Anger and Fear that make up our emotional ‘Shadow’.
When we are unable, or choose not, to ‘deal with’ how we truly feel, we unknowingly store up the energy of any unexpressed emotions in this shadowy, unexplored area of our Psyche.
Transmuting Energy
Reclaiming our 'Shadow' allows us to access these immense stores of emotional energy and activate them as a positive force for our healing and growth. Although there are very long and painful ways of approaching this, I believe it can be simple and painless - the proverbial "butterfly's wing". I call the process 'transmuting'.
If you’d like to find out more, please have a look at:
www.copingskills4kids.net for a simple guide to the Coping Brains
www.co-counselling.org.uk for more about the work of John Heron and Co-Counselling.